Patsy Terrell

Lived fully, laughed loudly, gave generously

  • Patsy’s Blog
  • Archive Page
  • Contact Page

  • Home
  • Patsy’s Life
  • Patsy’s Blog
  • Patsy’s Projects
  • Patsy’s Legacy
  • Memories

October 28, 2011 by Patsy

Trust Your Instincts

I’ve always had issues with trust. The reasons are myriad, and not worth spending my energy typing about. At some point along life’s path I realized I had to come up with some way I could manage my trust issues and still function – in the world, in relationships, with friends, in any circumstance imaginable.

So, I developed a system that works for me. The bare bones description of it is that I give everyone 1000%  complete and total trust. But the first time it’s abused, it’s gone. There is no going back. Well, not that I can imagine, anyway. Maybe at some point there will be a situation where that happens.

In the last two or three years there have been some situations where I had a little big of niggling doubt about someone. But, I didn’t end the relationship because there was very little risk to me, my heart, my life, etc. if the person proved untrustworthy. So, I let it ride because they had not demonstrated I had a reason to not trust them. It was just a feeling that they were trying to use me.

Now I know my instincts were right. No serious harm was done to me or my life, except that I’m left with the knowledge I was used. And used for something I consider really petty. But, obviously, it wasn’t petty for them.

So, I’m letting that go. I don’t believe in carrying grudges, but I believe in accepting knowledge. I now know this person can’t be trusted. I wish them well on life’s journey and thank them for the lesson.

I should trust my instincts. 

—–
Connect with me on Facebook or Twitter.

In the Dark

Words That Soothe

❮❮ Previous Post
Next Post ❯ ❯

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Epitaphs for Patsy

In a document she left behind for a good friend, Patsy listed five possible epitaphs that could be used at the time of her passing.

  • ‘Lived Fully. Laughed Loudly. Gave generously. Gone.’
  • ‘Lived, Laughed and Loved. Continuing that elsewhere.’
  • ‘Lived fully every day. No regrets now.’
  • ‘The journey continues It has been magical.’
  • ‘A magical journey so far no regrets.’

An Editorial Tribute

An Editorial Tribute

Image courtesy of Richard Crowson

Categories

Archives

Memories

Patsy’s Legacy

Patsy’s Projects

Patsy’s Life

In memory of Patsy Terrell • Curated by Greg Holmes • Website by Rosemary Miller